I’ve only been pregnant once (so far) and I’ve only been a Mama for a little over two weeks now, but I’ve had some time to think about life during and after pregnancy. I’d like to write a two part letter to my pregnant friends in reflection of the things I’ve been thinking about over the last couple of weeks. Part one is about enjoying the end of pregnancy and part two (posted tomorrow) is about the tiny miracle you’re about to meet.
To my friends and mamas to be…
I know it’s hard. It’s hard to have a watermelon where your belly once was, to only be able to wear shoes you can slip on, to be uncomfortable whether you’re standing, sitting, or trying to sleep. Hang in there.
This time you have with your baby, the precious time before they make their way into this world, is so special. In this moment your baby is yours. There is no one to share with, no worry about handing them off to someone, no chance of them being sneezed on by a stranger. When you place your hand on that big belly you can feel the tiny life you are growing in your body. Isn’t that amazing?
I want to plead with you my friend, to take this time to enjoy your baby, your time, and your spouse. Pregnancy may be hard, but the living and crying baby that comes out of you is so much less predictable. I know you’re probably twiddling your thumbs, wishing your baby would arrive, but take this time to do the things you need to. Actually, take this time to do anything you want, because soon your time will revolve around the tiny human who has taken over your life. Bake cookies, run errands, sleep in as long as your little heart desires. And please, please, enjoy your spouse. You will both be changed by childbirth in the most amazing ways, but for now please take the time to just enjoy the time the two of you have left. Soon the time you spend together will revolve around diaper changes and figuring out how to get the baby in the car seat. Watch a movie and hold hands, enjoy dinner with no interruptions, and do the things only the two of you can do.
If this is your first baby, as it is mine, take this time to enjoy the quiet of a house that is only occupies by you and your spouse. Someday, after this baby is born, you may decide to have another and when you do you won’t just be pregnant, you’ll be pregnant and have another child to take care of. The luxury of naps are much less likely to exist in that world.
Please know that I don’t mean to sound unhappy in any way, shape, or form. Becoming a mother has made my heart grow in ways I did not think possible. But please, my friend, take this time to enjoy yourself. What you are doing is so incredible and it is so worth taking the time to enjoy it.
Looking for Part Two? Find it here.